Single-Mooning: Falling back in love with oneself one day at a time

I've been wrestling in this area probably my whole life. I have an extreme Type A personality, so to me, if I see something and I want it, what possible obstacle could block me from it? I set a goal, make the schedules and charts and go after it. What could possibly go wrong, right? Ha! Maturity and life have taught me that you can want something and it can be 100% good for you but if the timing isn't right , it's better not to have that thing at all. Remember being a child and wishing you could drive? You just knew you could handle it and it was as simple as turning a wheel? Then you get older and realize there's a bigger level of knowledge to it-- like turn signals, freeways, 4 way stop signs and oh yeah, speed limits that you probably couldn't have handled had someone given you keys at the age of 9. The desire was there but the capacity to handle the responsibly of it was not. My friends will often hear me use the cake analogy. I can have all the right i

Single. One word. Sounds simple right? "Single" ideally means not married, not separated, not in a relationship, not "it's complicated." In short, it means: not taken. But guess what single does NOT mean? AVAILABLE. That's right. Now, say it with me: Single does not mean available!! A person could very well be single and still not be in a position where they are ready to date you, let alone be in a relationship with you. Twice this year alone I've been encountered by two individuals who by all intents and purposes are single. No one sleeps at their homes but them, no one has the title "girlfriend," and when it's tax season, they get to mark that cute little box that says,  "Single," on their tax form. But our brief dealings quickly reminded me of one simple truth. We often get so lovestruck that we tend to forget: single just does not mean available. For one individual (let's call him Bryant), though his best

So for some strange reason I accepted the 30 day "Blog Like Crazy" Challenge so lucky you----you're going to hear from me more this month than ever before. You can expect posts that make you cry, posts that make you laugh, posts that make you think or any combination of the three,lol! So for this first post, I thought we'd go back to the basics, what made me start blogging in the first place a few years ago- heartbreak. If you've never had your heart broken or been disappointed by the way a relationship (or situationship) ended, you're one of the lucky ones. For the rest of us, if we're honest, we've been there, and for many of us, we've been down that road more than once. So what happens next? What happens after she tells you that it's over and wants to just be friends? What happens after he moves on while your head is still calculating exactly where it all went wrong? What happens when the song you deemed "our song," comes o